đŸ–€ Happy World BDSM Day! Let’s Talk Kinks, Play, and Safe Words

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A day to celebrate kink, consensual power exchange, and the beautiful variety of ways people explore control, sensation, submission, and more. Whether you’re a seasoned Dom/me, an eager sub, or just kink-curious, you’re welcome here :kiss_mark:

Let’s chat:

  • :link: What are some of your favorite BDSM acts, scenes, or kinks you love exploring?
  • :speaking_head: What’s your go-to safe word (or signal if you use non-verbal cues)?
  • :thought_balloon: Have any memorable scenes or moments that helped shape your journey in kink?

This is a safe, respectful space—so feel free to share, learn, and connect. Whether you’re into soft bondage, impact play, brat-taming, pet play, or service dynamics
 let your flag fly :black_heart:

Also, if you’ve got toy/tool recs (like paddles, cuffs, electro gear, etc.), drop those too!

Consent. Communication. Aftercare. Always.
Let’s celebrate kink with love, intention, and curiosity :black_heart::link:

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Kink always makes me think of bondage, blindfolds, restraints, roleplay, and even predicament play. :upside_down_face:

I’ve always wanted to try full-body restraint, but my environment just doesn’t allow it. :melting_face:

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I totally feel you on that! Bondage and restraint play just hits different—there’s something so powerful and freeing about surrendering control (or taking it :smiling_face_with_horns:)

I will share an X post with you !! That is where life peaks :drooling_face:

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I live the lifestyle regularly. I go to munches every month. Munches are casual aka “vanilla” social events at local venues lika coffee shop or bar. I also go to a dungeon once in a while as well. As a demisexual, I reallt enjoy the separation of kink and sex. My favorite kinks are Pet play and pressure point play. I have experience topping and bottoming for impact, senory. I have bottomed for elextro, rope and other more advanced scenes through demo night events.

I use the stop like system as my safe words. “Red” is the complete stop the scene and give immediate aftercare. An important question during negotiations is what does “yellow” mean to you. Yellow can mean different things to people. Mine specially is to pause and check in.

My most memorable scenes have been pressure point demo where I volunteered and learned about it. A pet play scene with my partner. And another more advanced scene I tried for the first time during a demonstration.

I actually just posted a review on a spaning bench that I brought. That was hand made for a friend. It will be live on ToyChats on August 9th.

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Your take on separating kink from sex as a demisexual really interesting how you see kink and sex so differently not many demisexuals are able to do that

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I want a secret room someday with all that kink furniture looking forward to reading your review on a custom hand made bench !

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Being on the ace spectrum, it is very rare to find someone I am attracted to sexually and feel comfortable with sexually. I really enjoy that with the kink side of things. I can have that intimate connection but have no sexual expectations to go with it. I also have learned and grown so much interpersonally with my negotiation and communication skills being a part of this community.

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Not as a secret but I hope to own a two bedroom to myself in the future so the spare room can have all the kink in there. I own a St. Andrews Cross and I would love to have it out all the time in a spare bedroom. It is currently taken apart and behind the futon.

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I believe every person has phases in a life time where sometimes they’re very selective about who they want sexually connect with and there phases of openness to accepting easily

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I love CNC! My partner and I always plan a fun scenario that we both would like to act out together, and then we get props and stuff to make the story come alive. I am always a sucker for a good ol’ kidnapping scenario.

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oooooh sounds fun :hot_pepper: Are you guys just into roleplay or actual CNC like the consent non-consent play? Kidnapping scenario is one such scenario but I used to have a hard time understanding the term “CNC“ like you want your partner to act uninterested although they’re

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I have been slowly thinking about adding the aesthetic element with costumes - never personally done that for myself but I am working with streamers on different role play situations for their streams

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I like the idea of my partner taking advantage of me without my “consent.” There’s always lots of communication and pre planning that goes into it. But different scenarios are where we really get to be creative with it.

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Love this. Have been on scene for over 20 years. Too many memorable scenes to mention lol

Vanilla utterly bores me now.

And for me, when it comes to the BD aspect the mark of a good Dom/me isn’t outfits and toys, they are just props. It’s the extent that they are able to get in their subs head, and twist.

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